Soul Searching In Relationship

        

   “Are soul mates only positive, loving and nurturing or can they help you to learn other difficult lessons?” Read on and find out.

Relationships are like sand, the more you try to hold them the more they seem to slip. In my practice as a psychologist, people in disturbed relationships form a large group of clients who come for psychotherapy. Many do not want to undergo deep psychotherapeutic healing but are keen to find answers superficially. They just want to clean the dust over the image of their partner and feel all is well. My work I know is not over for after a few years they will arrive back at my clinic and say, ‘It’s happening again. It was better for some time but again the relationship is deteriorated. Please help me.” This, is when I will suggest, “Why don’t you try a past life session? Maybe you will find answers which may resolve the problem in your mind and spiritually you will be able to connect to the purpose of having them in your life.”

Past life regression therapy can help people understand why they live in an abusive relationship? Whether they need to continue or is it the end of the road for them. I believe that we are meant to be happy with our partner and if there is sadness, humiliation and abuse in a relationship then time has come for forgiveness.

Take the example of  Sarita. She was a successful surgeon and lived with her physician husband and nine year old son. It was an arranged marriage and the family thought the match was made in heaven. They came from middle class homes where their visiting card identity gave then an upper hand in society. They were happy and life was exciting. They decided to make a comfortable home for their arrival a year later – their son. No one could have imagined what was about to unfold.

Sarita had no suspicion that while she was at her mother’s home during delivery of her son her husband was secretly seeing another woman. On her arrival she saw her husband’s indifference. She wondered whether she was to blame for it. She asked him to forgive her as she had been so preoccupied. Her husband smiled and remained quiet. A few months passed and one day she saw him getting into the car and talking on the mobile phone. She glanced at her husband’s mobile which she saw lying on the dining table. This is when she realized that he had another mobile phone which was kept in the car. Sarita’s suspicions were proved right when she spoke to the hospital nurses where her husband worked and they spilled the beans. Her husband had been acting in a promiscuous manner with women for the past many years. She caught the mobile laden with unacceptable messages and images. When she confronted him, he had no choice but to own up. This broke Sarita. She was devastated and wanted to know why this had happened to her. She said she could never forgive him and wanted to make him suffer. When she arrived at my clinic she was crying uncontrollably. I knew she must get her answers or she will blame herself all her life. She will think maybe she was not a good wife.

Her first session was deep and emotional. She saw herself as a woman living in a small village in Maharashtra, India. She was happily married to a young man. He was a farmer and they were in the field when she entered into the past life. The entry point is always where the subject will find herself just before the trauma occurs. If it has happened in adolescence then the subject will enter at age 10 or 12, sometimes even at age 6 or 8. Sarita named herself as Kusum as she heard her husband say her name. She described her house which was simple and small made of cow dung and with dry leaves as a roof. She sees herself cooking on a choola (Indian gas stove made of clay). She had an infant son who was a few months old sleeping in the cradle.

Once you ground your energy in the past life body, the life unfolds and as she described herself and the situation it was time to move to events. At this time the trance state must be deepened so that more information emerges.

Sarita was moved to the next scene and she saw herself standing at the door waiting for her husband. This is the time when there is nothing happening and to keep the subject in this state too long is not beneficial. The therapist must say, ‘A few minutes have gone by and now at the count of 3 you will find yourself in a significant situation.’

As Sarita moved she suddenly felt someone holding her shoulders. She feels the grip growing tighter and then a hand comes over her mouth. She finds herself struggling as an attempt to scrams has been muffled. She finds herself thrown on the cot and a man’s body over her. She thinks it is her husband and for a few minutes she stops struggling. As I urge her to see the husbands face, she says,”Oh! Its dark but this is not my husband. “How do you know?” I ask and she says, “I know”. This means that she still could not see but she could feel. This means that her consciousness has shifted the message sensor from vision to tactile. Sarita feel the sexual assault and when she sees the man’s face she recognizes it as her husband’s in this life. The man was a stranger who was the village drunkard and had always had his eyes on his friend’s wife. Now he had got the opportunity and was doing this evil act. This results in Sarita squirming and crying out in pain. This is the release that needs to occur. The emotion of pain, hurt, anger and humiliation. She is unable to free herself out of the man’s clutches and succumbs to it. She dies leaving behind her infant son and a grieving husband. The man who was her abuser runs away. As she leaves the past life body she is resentful.

 This was her past life and why is it that her perpetrator has come in the role of her husband? If so then why is he abusive? 

The ways of the soul are not that simple. Sarita died with resentment and she must teach her perpetrator a lesson. The perpetrator is also in agreement that he must experience the feeling of rejection and humiliation. So in this life Sarita married her perpetrator as the energy of abuse always brings together the victim with her abuser. They may marry but only till the energy of abuse gathers again and the perpetrator is humiliated. This is what happened.

Sarita after the session no longer felt like a victim. Sarita and her husband had a soul agreement in which her present husband had agreed to be humiliated and exposed not only by her but also by other women. He wanted to be divorced and dragged to court and openly to admit that he had abused her emotionally and mentally. He wanted to pay her a huge compensation and also give the custody of their son to her. Sarita could now see that she was free from her husband and from the energy of abuse. She found the heart to forgive her husband and move on without hate.

Today Sarita is stable, happy and free. She says if it was not for past life therapy she could have never known the karmic connection between her husband and her and not has the courage to forgive.

Next post you will read the amazing insight that Sarita’s husband had in his past life session. Love with Grace