‘ Every parent needs to look at fulfillment as an ultimate goal in bringing up children’
‘Every school needs a counselor,’ has been the objective by the educational department. Slowly society that is responsible for children is waking up to the fact that there is guidance required to raise children. There is a need to open parent guidance centers if we have to raise well-adjusted children. The reason lies in the spiritual discrepancy that lies between the two concerned parties- parents and children. My psychotherapeutic work is concerned with transpersonal psychology, which deals with personal consciousness, and it understands.
Parents feel some amount of doubt over their parenting skills and teachers have to go in for a refresher course to be a better guide. All adults seem to be under the weather when it comes to bringing up or teaching kids today. Somehow the methods that were used before are obsolete today. Obedience, compromise and respect for time are values of the past. Why? What has altered today for this revolutionary change to occur?
Developmentally or physiologically has the nervous system changed? Is the size of the brain larger, are the limbs more elaborately designed or are the hormones being secreted at a faster rate? The humanoid man has evolved slowly over more than 3000 years and now the acceleration is faster than ever before. Not only genetically but at the level of perception too it is becoming visible. Can our eyes see wider distances or our ears hear at faster frequencies? The Bible mentioned 4-6 colors but today we see many more. We don’t see beyond UV light or infra red, we don’t hear beyond 50-20,000 on the scale of vibration but this is all going to change in half a million years. Are we as parents or as a civilization prepared to make the shift? Whether we like it or not this change in consciousness is going to happen.
Itzhap Bentov a Boston based researcher explained the shift in consciousness in a very scientific manner. Let us use the statistical method of the Bell curve diagram to demonstrate this.
Curve A1 is what intellectual quotients were before 30 years while A2 is the proposed shift that is being made. When we look at A1 we see that the middle of the curve or the bulk of the population 30 years back when the intelligence test WISC was revised in the year 1974 indicated that children who were between the IQ 90-109 were average performers. This meant that children at the lower end of the curve are below average and a certain percentage at the upper end of the curve is highly intelligent. This range would include the rare minds like Newton, Einstein and others like them who were considered to not fit into the normal scheme of functioning. They lived in another realm of reality where things appeared different. Their minds were at some time considered insane and many had learning disabilities. They were the new age kids then- disobedient, hyperactive and considered to be the back benchers as they were unable to study the way it was taught then. They were spiritually aware and alive and so able to connect to they’re higher self and get messages that were then translated for us mortal men.
Today many more Einstein’s exist as evolution is pushing its way to the right. As you observe the curve A2 it is shown that the Average that was 30 years back now falls in the lower end of the curve and children today with IQ 90-109 are not doing that well in schools and colleges because this is no longer the average required to cope with an exponentially developing world. The Einstein’s are today the average while the curve ends and leans towards a generation that is developing who are already more evolved and adapted to performing at a more higher plane of consciousness. These children are unable to fit into mainstream and considered learning disabled. Are they really learning disabled or are we disabled to teach them? Who is responsible? The education and society at large who are falling in the below average category of the Bell curve. Are parents who belong to the lower end of the A1 Bell curve really equipped to deal with these new age kids when there exists a large discrepancy in the interpretation of reality between them.
In the past 15 years the percentage of children diagnosed as having attention problems, hyperactivity and behavioral issues has increased and the reason is related more to the inability to understand the reality that they are coming from. The abilities that are characteristic of the highly evolved are what they possess and so they lie at the right of the A2 Bell curve. More evolved, fast thinking and creative. We will have to match up to them not get them to match up to us. Adjustment is the inappropriate term to be used if we have to evolve.
We as parents have to understand that our children especially those who have been born after 1990 are evolving at a very fast rate. They are visual, creative and learn with the speed of light. Their minds are truly like the cosmic sponge- open and all encompassing. This is the reason that they cannot adapt to the slow tortoise pace which the pen supports. They need laptops, visual aids and a different exam routine where they are challenged to think divergently. More mentor programs where a professional who integrates what is learnt in schools provides information to them.
For the next 20 years we are going to ride on an Age of Experience and this will be reflected in their behavior. Kids responding style will be- “I will do and learn” rather than “ learn and do”. Parents will have to support this with providing a controlled environment rather than a strict one. It is important to understand their need for friends and the exchange of information and affection that it provides. The need to experiment is linked to their interest in the material world as they come from a more spiritual realm of creation. All that is fast- fast cars, loud noise, vibrant colors, psychedelic lights and more partners will enamor them. It’s all about stimulating their senses. The way parents can guide the new age kids are to allow them freedom and teach them the value of it by being the appropriate role model. Use the word No to a minimum. Replace it with ‘Lets talk”, ‘ What do you think we should do’, ‘ Is there another way to solve this’. The power of choice is to replace the power of chance and this should be explored with our children. Our children are more spiritually inclined and will be the torchbearers of a very enlightened tomorrow. In my work for the past 23 years I have seen how all my children who had ADHD or Learning Disabilities have not only been successful but are the most loving and caring children I have ever seen.
The nervous system is evolving and the picture of reality is changing. The evolutionary movement will continue to push us beyond who we are today and will in time gravitate us to an elevated consciousness where higher realities are manifested.
Evolution is like digestion and circulation. It just happens. Whether you like it or not we are moving towards an amazing time. We just have to flow with the tide for if we don’t we are sure to drown.
“ Like snowflakes, we are all similar though different. The more we recognize this reality we can transcend it and move further in our evolution”.
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