A relationship can survive and mend itself if the couple does not dissect it. Dissection is done for postmortem of the dead. If you want your relationship to survive just let go of the intense desire to analyze. The more you analyze the more skeletons will tumble. This will lead to heartburn and distrust. You will wonder at the choice of your spouse and the wonderful time you spent as a lie. This
may not have been true. A short excursion must not be looked as your spouse’s future wish.
Couples will always wipe out all the wonderful years spent together as if they never happened. They only remember and mess around with the little distraction. Let go of this incessant need to dissect every detail of this deviation. This does not amount to forgetting or forgiving but just letting go of the obsessive behavior that will get you nowhere… but to hell.
Letting go is wonderful. It is a way of becoming resilient. It’s a way of gently bending, allowing yourself to veer through the thoughts and feelings without trying to will change but letting change happen. To will is being in control of something that you can’t let go. Will means repression and stacking things deep means hiding them. Thinking that they don’t exist. This is a lie. If you just let go there is no one you have to answer and no answer to be got. It’s so relieving, so accepting and completely freeing.
Couples will always wipe out all the wonderful years spent together as if they never happened. They only remember and mess around with the little distraction. Let go of this incessant need to dissect every detail of this deviation. This does not amount to forgetting or forgiving but just letting go of the obsessive behavior that will get you nowhere… but to hell.
Letting go is wonderful. It is a way of becoming resilient. It’s a way of gently bending, allowing yourself to veer through the thoughts and feelings without trying to will change but letting change happen. To will is being in control of something that you can’t let go. Will means repression and stacking things deep means hiding them. Thinking that they don’t exist. This is a lie. If you just let go there is no one you have to answer and no answer to be got. It’s so relieving, so accepting and completely freeing.
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Ok mam, but always letting go does not work and not advisable too as it may lead to some serious issues. Dissection is required some times but one thing which can be adopted is to become witness (shakshi) of the dissection ie analyse without being trapped in the situation. Am I right?
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